“ If you feel like you’d have an agenda that’s a PART, but if there is curiosity, compassion, that’s the SELF. And what we’re always trying to do when we’re in IFS is finding that Self energy that allows us to be the noticer, to look around and see what’s happening.”
“Every part has a reason. There are no bad parts.”
I have always been fascinated by the work of IFS and find myself using the language without realizing that it is IFS. We all have different parts inside of us, and this is normal. To heal and grow, we must repair our relationship with all of our parts. I was thrilled to meet our guest Lucy Orton, who spoke about Internal Family Systems (IFS) in a clear and digestible way. I just had to have her on the podcast, and I am so thankful that she was open to it.
In today's episode, we explore the wonderful path of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and provide a deeper understanding of IFS. Lucy will give us an introduction to basic concepts and what it's like to experience different parts of us and practice IFS for restoring wholeness and Growth. Lucy Orton is an IFS-informed practitioner and a certified positive psychology coach as well as an Apple Top 10 podcaster (Self-Sabotage To Success). Lucy works with individuals and with organizations to empower their most valued talent. She helps clients unlock greater confidence and super-charge their self esteem and to shift mindsets away from feeling like an imposter or not enough into a space of radical self-compassion and kindness.
In this episode, we discuss:
An introduction to IFS
What makes IFS different from other healing or therapeutic modalities,
The types of parts we all have: Managers, Firefighters, Exiles and The Self.
The importance of not judging the parts
Behavioral examples of how parts of us show up in organizations and teams
Addictive behaviors and firefighters
The SELF and how can we unlock this power within ourselves
“When we recognize parts in others, we bring more compassion to ourselves and to them, because we realize that actually, when we’re having a disagreement with someone, it’s probably not the Self to Self is the part to part .”
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“IFS feels much more ease because you’re literally just checking in, you’re going in without an agenda. And when we lead from that agenda-less space, then we can spot things that maybe we weren’t aware of until we gave that spotlight on our own internal system.”