March 7, 2022
How to walk towards enoughness with Mandy Lehto #51
“Enoughness is like a north star, a direction that we walk into because we’re always in a place where the voice in our head is telling us otherwise”
If the word not enough frequently pops up in your inner dialogue: not smart, not cool, not strong, not pretty, not successful enough ...then this episode is for you.
Today’s guest, Dr Mandy Lehto, walks us through the journey of enoughness and shares a tool kit to remove blockers and build up enoughness .
Mandy is an expert on high performance, especially in private equity, investment banking, law, and tech. Her clients are senior executives around the world who are looking to get more out of their leadership --and their lives. Mandy has a Doctorate from Cambridge University. In her former career, she was a Director at a global investment bank. Mandy is a former columnist for Psychologies magazine. She has written for (or featured in), The Sunday Times, Psychology Today, Top Sante, The Huffington Post and on CNBC. She’s also the host of Enough, the podcast on Spotify and iTunes. She’s a member of 4PC, the invitation-only coaching community for some of the world’s most extraordinary coaches. She's also a member of the Association for Coaching.
“Dopamine is insatiable, there will always be another level to get to ”
What it means to feel good enough
The common “not enough” beliefs and behaviors that are causing our imbalance
How the feeling of not enough shows up in our daily lives
Achievement, perfectionism and pleasing as a way of numbing out the voices in our head
The need for self-improvement and its impact on our authentic self and wellbeing
Four practices on how to detox those “not good enough” thoughts and behavior
Minimum Viable Productivity practice to take the body slowly into a safer place
“Reclaiming our enoughness is another way of saying I trust myself deeply”
“The conundrum is that first we have the basic need to truly want to be ourselves , and the second one is that we need to belong.”
“Because I don’t believe my authenticity as it is, I will be willing to reinvent and perform according to what might be acceptable”
“When there’s nothing bad in me to overcome, or throttle, or silence, or to wrestle down, all of sudden it changes my relationship, that if I can accept all those parts and they are doing the best they can and give so much compassion to them , that to me is living in alignment ”
“It doesn’t mean that we don’t want to learn more or improve or change but it doesn’t have to come from a place of” I “hate myself “and “I am not good as I am” ”